Toxic relationships are a serious problem for many people in this world. It can be hard to feel good while in the middle of a harmful relationship. It doesn’t matter if you’re dating someone who is dealing with severe drug addiction. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a complex situation that’s all about codependency.
A toxic relationship can interfere with your happiness and success in a significant way. If you believe that you’re part of a relationship that’s detrimental, you should take action to remove yourself from the situation as soon as possible.
Your happiness is always more than worth the effort. You don’t have to settle for a life of nonstop codependency. You don’t have to deal with someone who makes addiction a focal point. You deserve to smile and feel free just like anyone else out there.
Here are five steps for removing yourself from a toxic relationship…
1. Acknowledge That You’re in Denial
If you’re in a toxic relationship, chances are you’re in denial. That’s why you should do whatever you can to acknowledge that fact.
Admitting that you’re in denial is the first step to getting out of it for good. You can do this by focusing on a few key realities.
If you can freely admit that you feel zapped of energy any time you’re around your partner, that’s a good sign. If you can acknowledge that you feel obligated to be around this person, that’s a good sign as well.
Your first goal is to be 100 percent honest with yourself. If you can be truthful with yourself, you can indeed move in the right direction. That direction is far, far away from your problematic partner.
2. Write Out Your Feelings
Life is chaotic. It can be hard to keep track of your emotions on a day-to-day basis. It can be especially difficult for people who are involved in turbulent and unpredictable toxic circumstances.
If you want to gather up the strength to exit a toxic relationship, it can help you considerably to write out your feelings whenever you get the opportunity. Don’t get lazy about this, either.
Reviewing a notebook that documents your feelings can remind you that your toxic relationship is bad news. It can remind you that it doesn’t do you any good. These reminders can be invaluable for people who want to make big changes in their lives.
It isn’t ever easy to walk away from a relationship that feels like such a big part of you, even if it’s unpleasant.
3. Take Care of the Void
Your relationship is likely a big part of your daily existence as you probably spend a lot of time with your partner. You may watch television together after work. You may go shopping together on weekends.
If you want to transition to the single life with maximum ease, you should try to take care of the void. It’s critical to search for other options that can keep you busy. It’s important to look for other activities that can make you feel calm and complete as well.
Think about pursuing a brand new hobby such as photography or gourmet cooking. Consider signing up for classes at a local community college. Reconnect with old friends you haven’t seen in years and years. Redesign your kitchen, living room or bathroom.
There are many things you can do to take care of the void and move forward in life. Your priority should be to keep the focus off your destructive relationship and to look to the future with renewed optimism.
5. Seek Outside Assistance
Outside assistance is essential for people who want to leave toxic relationships successfully. If you want to get through your tough situation, you need to seek support from friends and family members who are good influences.
Don’t look to people who are naysayers. Depend on those who truly make you feel happy. Rely on those who encourage you and who want to see you shine. You know exactly who these people are.
Steer clear of people who make you feel just as awful as your toxic partner. You don’t necessarily have to get support from friends and relatives, either.
It can also be a great idea to get counseling from a skilled and knowledgeable therapist. Talking about your emotions can be extremely soothing and productive. It can help you organize your thoughts and get on track better as well.
5. Make Relaxation a Priority
Toxic relationships are extremely tiring and they can take a lot out of you. If you want to free yourself from the prison of a toxic relationship, you should make relaxation a priority.
Don’t overburden yourself. You don’t have to fill your schedule with nonstop social affairs. You don’t have to work overtime to keep your mind off your relationship woes. You should designate plenty of “me” time, however.
Give your mind the chance to heal. Spend a few days watching comforting movies that make you smile. Give your dog extra hugs. Treat yourself to some of your favorite meals. Do whatever it takes to recharge.
If you can get through a toxic relationship, you can get through anything in this world. You simply have to be true to yourself and to your goals in life.
Once you remove yourself from a toxic relationship, understand that not all relationships are meant to last forever, and also that not all relationships end negatively. Don’t let one bad relationship define your concept of them.
Learning from past mistakes can make future ones better, especially if you grasp how to maintain healthy boundaries in relationships the next time around.
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